Dealing With Difficult People

Question: I often encounter rude behavior from sisters when I attend the mosque and other events. This burdens my spirit and I’ve concluded that Islam is the relationship between you and God and the ummah part is just extra if you can deal with it. In other words I don’t enjoy the company of many sisters and just rather be at home. Tonight from prayer I was walking towards my door and I thought “maybe I shouldn’t be Muslim anymore” and as soon as I thought it, I fell down a flight of steps, hurt my right hand and nearly broke the fingers on my left. If the shayateen are bounded during Ramadan where is all this from?

Answer: I pray that you are doing well inshaAllah and that Allah will ease the pain in your heart and safeguard and increase your faith.

The scholars of Ihsan (spiritual excellence) note that dealing with people is one of the greatest trials that a person can face. It tests one’s whole being — one’s physical, emotional and mental reactions. Dealing with the ill-treatment of a fellow Muslim and being forgiving is a great mujahada (spiritual struggle) whose reward is commensurate with the difficulty one finds in doing it.

Friends

In the name of Allah, the Most Compassionate and Most Merciful.

What’s your definition of friends? I’ve read many blogs and it seems that the authors churn out out replies more or less similar to one another.

We all know friends can shape our character. They all say, choose your friends wisely, but have we done that?

Narrated by Abu Hurairah,”The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: A man follows the religion of his friend; so each one should consider whom he makes his friend”.

My First PERGAS Lesson

In the name of Allah, the Most Compassionate and Most Merciful.

I had my PERGAS lesson early this morning and I had to walk in circles to find the gate. Thank God I stumbled upon a friendly Pakcik who happened to be in the same class as me! The best part was, his 2 sons enrolled in as well. The not-so-good part was, I got to know one of them are partially blind. He’s dependant on his walking stick and a guide.